You’ve probably had a moment when you recently broken down in tears.
If you’re like me, you feel an overwhelming sense of pressure to do it all yourself.
You want to be an amazing at home, kill it at work, and somehow look good while doing it all.
It’s probably important to you to make sure everyone is taken care of, and you take pride for that.
But the truth is, that after going in circles making sure everyone else has what they need, you’re left without any energy or time for yourself.
Maybe at first you didn’t make a big deal of it. You love your family and your career and you’re happy to go the extra mile.
You want to see other people thrive, and you feel a sense of love and purpose when you can take care of others and get it all done.
But over time, everyone got used to you saying “yes”... and now you’re afraid of saying “no”.
You want to have some time for yourself, but you’re afraid of the kids missing you, or what your partner or boss will say, or you’re always stuck at work or rushing home.
… during that one moment when you needed someone’s help or someone to just listen to you, you feel like no one’s there for you.
Which brings us to that moment you had recently where you broke down in tears while sitting alone in your car, while laying in your bed, or out somewhere in public.
Back in 2015 while sitting on the New York City subway, I broke down in tears from major burnout.
It wasn’t cute having passengers stare while I was sobbing in the corner seat on my way to work. I had become a broken robot and could barely function.
I was so over being a workhorse, but it was all I knew. Couple this with trying to be the best daughter, wife, career-woman, and mom-to-be, my anxiety was through the charts.
Something needed to happen because I couldn’t keep living with that overwhelming sense that I was drowning.
After stepping off the train platform that day, I affirmed that I had to change my workhorse lifestyle or I was seriously going to lose it.
I needed to talk to someone about my situation, and I turned to an unlikely person—a transformational life coach. It changed my life.
Coaching reconnected me to my courage, power, and strength. My coach gave me a place to be seen and heard. I felt so much more confident in my life, I felt ready to take on changes.
I felt ready to leave the past behind.
I went through some big transitions, from deciding to grow my family with my first pregnancy, and buying my first home with my husband.
But the biggest change I made was to starting my own coaching business.
I knew that if coaching could help me break free from the shackles I had created in my life, that were creating my own suffering, then I could support other women like myself to free themselves, to find THEIR courage, and power, and strength.
I'm a first-generation Indo-Guyanese gyal born and raised in Queens, NY. My career path includes international community-building events for families, college success results for youth, and pro salsa dancing. I am a certified life coach accredited through the ICF's Leadership That Works: Coaching For Transformation program.
I also lived in Hong Kong for a year as a Fulbright Scholar, and proudly serve as Chief Energy Officer at Coach Shanita, Inc., as well as enjoy my roles as mom of 3 warriors, author, speaker as seen on TED.com, and artist among other fun things. When I'm not helping folx live victorious lives, I'm indulging in 90’s music and milk chocolate.
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